When specific issues or mental health conditions begin to cause distress and interfere with an individual’s normal activities, it may be time to seek therapy. This distress can manifest in the form of problematic beliefs, feelings, behaviors, and sensations in the body. In individual therapy (psychotherapy or counseling), I work one on one with a client to set up a safe environment in which the client can explore their beliefs, feelings, life circumstances and challenging or impactful memories. I work collaboratively with clients to set personal and therapeutic goals and gather tools to manage their symptoms, decrease stress, and face challenges. Therapy may include biofeedback, mindfulness techniques, EMDR, or Sandtray to aid the client in gaining a better understanding of themselves and others and to facilitate movement towards the client’s desired direction of change and to ultimately improve the client’s quality of life.
Research shows that on average, couples wait six years from the first signs of a relationship problem to get help. If this sounds like your relationship, know that you are not alone and that it is possible to have a better relationship than what you currently have. It is normal for couples to face large and small challenges.
I have the honor of working with diversely identified couples in equally diverse versions of relationships. Sometimes simple everyday stressors can put a strain on the quality of a relationship, and larger stressors when left unaddressed can jeopardize your relationship’s ability to survive.
When working with a couple, I work to explore what each individual’s desires and goals are for the relationship. There may be times when I will request to see each member individually, but only if that improves the overall work of the couple. Unlike individual therapy, the individual is NOT the client, the partnership/ relationship is the client. Couples have varying goals for therapy, but many work on ways to communicate and be heard, how to argue/disagree in a way that shows respect for the other individual, how to set healthy boundaries, and ways to increase/ enhance intimacy. Regardless of what your goals are as a couple, it is my job to look for patterns within your relationship that may impact your ability to reach these goals. Once we have recognized these patterns we can work to develop and practice healthier ones for all individuals involved.